Do I know you?

Dear Diary,

How well do you know your other half?  

Do you know his/her strengths and weaknesses? 

How about his/her favourites and dislike?  

Do you know his/her blood type?

How about his/her favourite meals?

Do you know his/her annoying habits?

What 'hurt' the past has he/she struggled most to overcome?

Who is his/her bestfriends?

What is his/her favourite way to wind down after a stressful day?

You may think that the longer you and your partner have been together, the better you know about him/her.  But you'd be wrong.  Me for example, me and my partner have been together for three years and I really thought I knew everything about him, I can even finish his sentence, I can predict his next reaction, so I thought.  Least I knew he had kept a huge secret that he kept for so long that almost crushed our relationship. Well, I'm not going to dwell about it anymore, let bygone be bygone.  We have back together again and going to proceed our lives together in "I DO" mode very soon.

But back in my mind, I keep asking myself  on how well both of us really know each other.  I believe both of us should take more time or extra effort to communicate.  With that, we can learn so much about us,  especially if we have spent a lifetime making memories together.  Because there is always room to learn something new about the person you love. On top of it, getting to know each other is one of the funnest parts about a relationship. It's fresh! It's new! It's exciting!  To be in a healthy, happy relationship, we should know a great deal about your other half.  Because you cannot fully love or appreciate somebody without knowing them, right?

 

Listen, no just hear,

Communicate, no just talk,

Hold, not just touch,

See what inside his/her heart, not just look the outside,

Pay attention, 

Never take things for granted......

Signed for now,

LOLA

Second time is the charm?

Dear Diary,

As background, I was married and divorced the first time around, where I walked away due to infidelity from my ex. I have since met the most amazing guy, someone who is so perfect for me. There is nothing wrong with him in a serious way, albeit he is not a perfect guy, but that is part of his appeal. I adore him, as is. When I laid my eyes on him for the first time, deep in my heart I knew that he is the one, my soulmate.

And yet, as time clocks off, I find myself afraid to commit for life again. Once again I wish to emphasize, there is nothing wrong with him. It is just me and not because I fear anything he would do, I just.... fear of marriage again.

As a second-time bride, I already know from experience that despite intense, deep-felt love, marriages can and do fall apart. Of course I don't want this marriage to fall apart because I love him to the very core of my being, and I can't imagine life without him. 

But what if I haven't learned enough from my mistakes? What if I haven't learned those lesson at all? There is no paper-pencil test for marriage skills, there is no manual on how to make the marriage successful. We can rehearse events in our heads and with our partners, but in the end, nobody can predict where our emotions will take us on any given day.

So where does that leave me now? In some ways, I am still the scared woman. However, I have determined that despite my fear, I must truly deeply trust in my partner's feeling for me, and trust myself. I need to accept that we would never grow if we never took risks, that we, as humans, are life-long learners, that many great things are unrehearsed. And I need to accept that doing nothing for fear of failure gets us nowhere.

Yes.... I DO.....

Signed off for now
LOLA

Headache Tuesday!

Dear Diary,

Help! I have a bad headache right now due to lack of sleep last night and woke up quite early this morning.  I was caught up with my works that need to be done and submitted this morning.  I feel a dull throbbing pain in the back of the head towards the forehead over my left eye.  Maybe it because I have a very stressful job that keeps me in front of a computer for 8-9 hours a day not to mention a bad diet and lack of time for exercise.  I do feel a bit unbalance every now and then but it is usually if I bend my head down or lay on my back. 

The last time, when I went for check up, the doctor said that I had the classic symptoms of stress and prescribed me with some anti-stress pills.  After a few days of med, I started to get some energy back because before I was very fatigued.  

Maybe my body is giving me a warning me again.  Maybe i need to chillax, go for short vacation and forget about the workloads.  Yeah! Maybe I will do that.....

Err, boss... could you approve my 1-month paid leave please? And it starts today.....
What? I can leave for good? Err.. nevermind, I think I've changed my mind ;)


Happy Tuesday everyone!!!!!!



Signed off for now
LOLA

Random quotes for cheeky monday...

Dear Diary,

Signed off for now

LOLA

Are you a YES person?

Dear Diary,

Heard over the radio about the "Are you a Yes person?" issue.  So are you a YES person? Am I a YES person?

Generally, we always have bad impression  on this type of person. They are believed to be gutless, no backbone and afraid to stand up for their belief or rights and defined as "will try to please others in order to have personal gain".  They also can be described as a person of unquestioning obedience, either as a follower or a pushover.  

But that's the definition of a traditional "Yes Person" who sits quietly and always agrees with others.  Now the new generation of "Yes Person" celebrates life to the fullest and takes advantage of every opportunity by always saying yes for something challenging or stimulating.

Say yes to everything, say yes to a new language, say yes to a new skill, say yes to spread the wings, say yes to finds a true love.  The secret of becoming a Yes Person is simply stop hiding behind own excuses.  Instead of saying 'no', just say 'yes' and go out with friends and have time of your life because when you grow old, you will fret all the things you didn't do and remember all the things you did.

 So from now on, I want you to become a Yes Person and say yes to everything in life .  I promise you it will not only change your view on life, but also bring you out on adventures you never thought would become true.

I am a YES WOMAN! and proud of it!!!!!

Signed off for now

LOLA

Sacrifice or compromise?

Dear Diary,

Would you do anything for your love ones? Would you sacrifice everything just for their happiness or well-being? If yes, to what extend? 

Do you have expectations in return for your partner after you make the a big sacrifice?  And will you be upset if your partner doesn't appreciate you for your sacrifice or doesn't automatically assume the next one is on him?

These questions were playing in my head lately.  I was told that sacrificing your own happiness for the happiness of the one you love is by far the truest type of love.  But for me, love needs not only sacrifice, but also with the giving comes the taking. It goes both ways, but love also needs trust, pride, humanity, and lots and lots of patience.  Love is undefinable and there is no manual.  Sometimes it takes all you have got to give. 

In love relationship, it involved both sacrifices and compromises.  Okay, what is the different between the two?  To sacrifice is to give up something precious in order to gain or maintain something i.e. a valuable relationship or some other worthy cause.  On the other side, to compromise is to give up the pursuit of a better prospect in order not to risk an existing situation, even if it somewhat worse that the prospect you give up.  

So, darling please sacrifice something for me so that I know that you love me, and in return I will stop considering you as the major compromise of my life....

"Eeerrrrmmm Honey, could you catch a grenade or two for me, please?" ;)

Signed for now,

LOLA

Happy weekend everyone...

Dear Diary,

Wish you

and 

and

and

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight....

Happy weekend, my sweet friends.


Signed off for now
LOLA

p/s: advance post