A break-up can be hard, but an unexplained one can be ever harder. You were left wondering what you have done, and whether it was your fault, or if there was anything you could have done to save the relationship.
It can be very hard and the worst thing is that you start thinking what went wrong, whose fault, etc, and sometimes you started blaming yourself or put sole responsibility to yourself.
- Examine the relationship deeply for what may have gone wrong. What make you and your partner unhappy? What make your partner choose to break the relationship instead of trying to work things out first?
- Maybe your partner has moved on or moving in into a new relationship. Maybe your partner has decided that enough is enough with your flirtatious attitude?
- If you partner says it's her/his fault, not yours, don't assume it is a lie. Sometimes, it is really true.
You deserve an explanation at the very least. So try to ask what really went wrong. State that you should know the truth so you can learn and improve in the next relationship. Don't use angry or accusatory language, please. All relationships can teach you something and it is worth learning what things you should improve. Nevertheless, if you don't get an answer, try to let it go. It is not your fault you aren't getting an answer, just let it go as best as you can, and move on.
Don't blame yourself for what happened unless you can point to ways in which you were responsible. You partner made the decision to mysteriously break-up. You can only be responsible for decisions you make, not those of others.
Hence, please avoid feeling sorry for yourself. Try to work towards happiness again. Many think that they won't love again, but trust me you will eventually find someone that worth your love. So relax and let it happen in its own time.
Just take your time and work through the pain, and you will come out on the other side, stronger and better.
Signed off for now
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