Happy Friday.....

Dear Diary,

Let's not kid ourselves......

When it is gorgeous outside, it is extremely tough to focus on work, even if said work is enjoyable!

Signed off for now
LOLA

A heart touching story......

Dear Diary,

 An old man was sitting with his 25 years old son on the train.  As the train started moving, the young man was filled with lots of joy and curiousity.

He was sitting on the window side.  He went out one hand and feeling the passing air.  He shouted, "Dad, see all tress are going behind"!  The old man smile and admired his son's feeling.

Beside them, one couple were sitting and listening all the conversations between the father and son. They were a little awkward with the childish attitude of the young man. 

Suddenly, the young man shouted again, "Dad, see the pond and animals.  Wow! clouds are moving with the train!"  His father fondly smile at him without saying a word.  The couple on the other hand, were watching the young man in despicable manner.

Then, it was started raining and water drops touched the young man's hand.  He was filled with joy and  closed his eyes.  He shouted again, "Dad, it is raining, water is touching me, see Dad!".

The couple couldn't help themselved and asked the old man. "Why don't you seek some treatment for your son?" "He obviously need it".... 

With smile on his face, the old replied,"As matter of fact, we were actually from the hospital, as today my son finally got his eye sight for the first time in his life".....

Moral of the story: DON'T DRAW  CONCLUSIONS UNTIL YOU KNOW ALL THE FACTS!...

Signed off for now
LOLA
  

What is LOVE?

Dear Diary,

What is love?
When we claim that it is love that we have for someone, are we right?

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, is your voice caught within your chest?
it isn't love, it is LIKE....

You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them?
It isn't love, it is LUST...

You feel proud and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it is LUCK...

Do you want them because you know they are there?
It isn't love, it is LONELINESS...

Are you there because it is what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it is LOYALTY...

Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
It isn't love, it is LOW CONFIDENCE...

Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it is PITY....

Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it is INFATUATION...

Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it is FRIENDSHIP....

Do you tell them everyday they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it is a LIE...

 Are you willing to give all of your favourite things for their sake?
It isn't love, it is CHARITY...

BUT!

Does your heart ache and break when they are sad?
Then it is LOVE....

Do you cry for their pain, even when they are strong?
Then it is LOVE.....


Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it is LOVE.....

Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you there?
Then it is LOVE....

Do you accept their faults because they are part of who they are?
Then it is LOVE.....

Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
Then it is LOVE.....

Would you allow them to leave you, not because they want to but because they have to?
Then it is LOVE.....

Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
Then it is LOVE.....

Signed off for now,
LOLA

I found you..................

Dear Diary,

Once in my lifetime, I truly believe that I will find someone who can completely turn my  world around.  I can tell him things that I have never shared with other souls and he absorb everything I say and actually want to hear more.

I share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at me.  When something wonderful happens, I just can't wait to tell him about it, knowing he will share in my excitement.

He is not embarrassed to cry with me or even for me, laugh with me when I make a fool of myself (which is almost always). He will hurt my feeling or make me feel like I am not good enough, but rather he build me up and show me the things about myself that make me special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition, only a quiet calmness when he is around.  He is always supportive in everything I do or want to do.

I can be be myself and not worry so much about what he will think of you because he loves me for who I am.

A phone calls or messages everyday helps to get me through a long day and always bring smile to my face.  By being with him, there is no need for continuous conversation, but I still feel content just having him nearby. 

Things that never interested me before become so fascinating as I know they are important to him...... 

I always think of him on every occasion and in everything I do.  Simple things bring him to my mind.  

I open my heart knowing that there is still a chance it may be broken one day and in opening my heart, I experience a love and joy that I never dreamed possible.  I find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow my heart to feel true pleasure that is so real, sometimes it scares me.

I find strength in knowing that I have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end.

Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.  My only hope and security is in knowing that he is a part of my life. 

I'm glad that we choose each other.... I want to be with you for eternity and beyond....

Signed off for now.

LOLA

Back to work after holiday.....

Dear Diary,

I wish I'm here

Instead I'm here @ work,

Have you ever had this kind of feeling before? It is so daunting to go back to work after a holiday weekend or vacation.  Maybe after the apex of a great weekend , suddenly you find yourself depressed when you land back home. Or maybe you slept in every day that you were off and now you have to jolt yourself back into reality by awaking early in the morning for a new work week.  No matter what, going back to work after days off is really a hard chore.

So, wish me lots and lots of lucks guys.... coz I really need it!

Signed off for now.
LOLA

Ho Ho Ho!!!!

Dear Diary,


May your world be filled with warmth and good cheer this Holy season, and throughout the year!!!

May your Christmas be filled with peace and love.

Also may joy and happiness snow on you, may the bells jingle for you and may Santa be extra good and patient with you.......

Merry Christmas everyone.....!!!!!!

Signed off for now
LOLA

Happy Rocking Monday!!!!

Dear Diary,

Do you feel like this on every Monday?

or like this?

But,

Coz,

Muahhhhhhh!!!!

Signed off for now
LOLA

Sibling Rivalry

Dear Diary,

I had a shock of my life yesterday when I heard a commotion in my children's bedroom.  It turned out that both of my teenagers were quarreling and it ended with my elder son smacked his brother.  Fortunately it happened just for a while and they became bestfriend-bro again.

Usually, Alan is so protective with his brother, Awan since he is the head of the family.  He is always persistent that it is his job to take care of me and his brother and will do anything for us.  In other hand, Awan has full respect of his older brother and Alan is a role model to him. 

Nevertheless, I always worried whenever they had a fight or quarrel.  It can be frustrating and upsetting to watch or hear they quarrel with one another.  I know that even though they are best of friends with their siblings, it is common for them to fight, and it is also common for them to swing back and forth between adoring and detesting one other.

It is often for sibling rivalry to starts even before the second child is born and continues as the chidlren grow and compete for everything - from toys to attention.  As children reach different stages of development, their evolving needs can significantly affect how they relate to one another.

The kind of conflict is stressful and upsetting for everyone.  Yet it is hard to know how to put stop on the fighting, or even whether you should get involve at all.   

My advice whenever possible, do not get involved. You can only step in if there is a danger of physical harm.  Because if you always intervene, you risk creating other problems as they may start expecting your help and wait for you to come to the rescue rather than learning to work out the problems on their own or make it appear to one child that another is always being "protected". 

We should encourage them to resolve the crisis themselves.  If you do step in, try to resolve problems with your children, not for them.

• Give them space for a little while and not immediately rehash the conflict.  
• Don't put too much focus on figuring out which child to blame.  It takes two to tango - anyone who is involved is partly responsible.
• Try to set up a win-win situation so that each child gains something.  
• Ask them to forgive and forget.  Besides, they will be together for eternity. Nothing can break this bonding.

Remember, as children cope with disputes, they also learn important skills that will serve them for life - like how to value other person's perspective, how to compromise and negotiate, and how to control aggressive impulses.

Just remember, I always love you both.... equally...

Signed off for now

LOLA

Passing Out Parade

Dear Diary,

I'm extremely sorry for the delay in updating my blog today as I had to attend my son's Passing-Out Parade (POP) this morning.  As you see, my younger son aka Tweety is currently studying in Royal Military College (Bravo). 

All PPs (Present Putera) have to take part in a POP upon completion from training course which will be held annually.  A POP is held usually at the RMC's marching ground, also known as the parade square.  It located just in in front of Tun Templer Hall.

Note: I borrowed this pics from OPs blogs.  I will add in the pics from my camera once I'm free

"We are NOT Military CADETS like those you could find in ordinary secondary school.We are the only true Multi Racial and Multi Cultural Boarding school where everyone live as one and what matter most was Espirit de Corp and we value each other irregardless of colours and background.This is where True Malaysians and Future Leaders are produced.We are The Soldier Boys from Royal Military College...."~by OP Mat Arif Mat Yusof~

Congratulations to all PPs.... 

Signed off for now

LOLA

Feel good Wednesday....

Dear Diary,

Just remember...
You define your own life! Don't let other people write the script for you.......

Signed off for now
LOLA

Do I know you?

Dear Diary,

How well do you know your other half?  

Do you know his/her strengths and weaknesses? 

How about his/her favourites and dislike?  

Do you know his/her blood type?

How about his/her favourite meals?

Do you know his/her annoying habits?

What 'hurt' the past has he/she struggled most to overcome?

Who is his/her bestfriends?

What is his/her favourite way to wind down after a stressful day?

You may think that the longer you and your partner have been together, the better you know about him/her.  But you'd be wrong.  Me for example, me and my partner have been together for three years and I really thought I knew everything about him, I can even finish his sentence, I can predict his next reaction, so I thought.  Least I knew he had kept a huge secret that he kept for so long that almost crushed our relationship. Well, I'm not going to dwell about it anymore, let bygone be bygone.  We have back together again and going to proceed our lives together in "I DO" mode very soon.

But back in my mind, I keep asking myself  on how well both of us really know each other.  I believe both of us should take more time or extra effort to communicate.  With that, we can learn so much about us,  especially if we have spent a lifetime making memories together.  Because there is always room to learn something new about the person you love. On top of it, getting to know each other is one of the funnest parts about a relationship. It's fresh! It's new! It's exciting!  To be in a healthy, happy relationship, we should know a great deal about your other half.  Because you cannot fully love or appreciate somebody without knowing them, right?

 

Listen, no just hear,

Communicate, no just talk,

Hold, not just touch,

See what inside his/her heart, not just look the outside,

Pay attention, 

Never take things for granted......

Signed for now,

LOLA

Second time is the charm?

Dear Diary,

As background, I was married and divorced the first time around, where I walked away due to infidelity from my ex. I have since met the most amazing guy, someone who is so perfect for me. There is nothing wrong with him in a serious way, albeit he is not a perfect guy, but that is part of his appeal. I adore him, as is. When I laid my eyes on him for the first time, deep in my heart I knew that he is the one, my soulmate.

And yet, as time clocks off, I find myself afraid to commit for life again. Once again I wish to emphasize, there is nothing wrong with him. It is just me and not because I fear anything he would do, I just.... fear of marriage again.

As a second-time bride, I already know from experience that despite intense, deep-felt love, marriages can and do fall apart. Of course I don't want this marriage to fall apart because I love him to the very core of my being, and I can't imagine life without him. 

But what if I haven't learned enough from my mistakes? What if I haven't learned those lesson at all? There is no paper-pencil test for marriage skills, there is no manual on how to make the marriage successful. We can rehearse events in our heads and with our partners, but in the end, nobody can predict where our emotions will take us on any given day.

So where does that leave me now? In some ways, I am still the scared woman. However, I have determined that despite my fear, I must truly deeply trust in my partner's feeling for me, and trust myself. I need to accept that we would never grow if we never took risks, that we, as humans, are life-long learners, that many great things are unrehearsed. And I need to accept that doing nothing for fear of failure gets us nowhere.

Yes.... I DO.....

Signed off for now
LOLA

Headache Tuesday!

Dear Diary,

Help! I have a bad headache right now due to lack of sleep last night and woke up quite early this morning.  I was caught up with my works that need to be done and submitted this morning.  I feel a dull throbbing pain in the back of the head towards the forehead over my left eye.  Maybe it because I have a very stressful job that keeps me in front of a computer for 8-9 hours a day not to mention a bad diet and lack of time for exercise.  I do feel a bit unbalance every now and then but it is usually if I bend my head down or lay on my back. 

The last time, when I went for check up, the doctor said that I had the classic symptoms of stress and prescribed me with some anti-stress pills.  After a few days of med, I started to get some energy back because before I was very fatigued.  

Maybe my body is giving me a warning me again.  Maybe i need to chillax, go for short vacation and forget about the workloads.  Yeah! Maybe I will do that.....

Err, boss... could you approve my 1-month paid leave please? And it starts today.....
What? I can leave for good? Err.. nevermind, I think I've changed my mind ;)


Happy Tuesday everyone!!!!!!



Signed off for now
LOLA

Random quotes for cheeky monday...

Dear Diary,

Signed off for now

LOLA