Cheating partner... the signs and how to catch him...

Dear Diary,

There is nothing as painful as discovering someone you love has been cheating on you, but almost as bad as not knowing for sure if your suspicion is founded. 

There are list of danger signs to look out for that show that your partner is being unfaithful (or not, as the case may be):

1. He suddenly loses interest in kissing you.  Strangely enough, man that unfaithful or bored will continue having sex far longer than they will in kissing.  So, this is one of the first signs they are going off you.
2. He stop wanting to make love with you (or just have a quicky instead).
3. He start working late at nights.  He also starts leaving for work earlier than usual.
4. He seldom wants to take you to work functions (possibly he is taking someone else instead).
5. He starts leave the room every time the handphone rings anand takes the call elsewhere. He keeps the handphone with him all the time.
6. Somebody on the other line hangs up the call as soon as they hear your voice, and the name and number is withheld.
7. He starts spend his free time claiming he is out with friends, yet you are not invited.
8. He receives text messages on their handphone during odd hours, and always quickly deletes after reading them and often claims they are only a friend. There is potentially his handphone bill has risen dramatically.
9. He suddenly has to go away for business trip, often at short notice and you are not allowed to accompany him.
10. He start taking a great deal more care about his appearance out of the blue, begin to wear perfume/ aftershave daily when they rarely bothered before.
11. He regularly comes home after work not hungry, as it may be he has eaten outside.
12. The mileage on his car or the petrol consumption has risen significantly for no explicable reason.

  

Now, you know the danger signs.  So, how to catch them out? There are a few tips that you can try out:

1. Whenever you have chance i.e. he is in the toilet or having shower, check the content of his wallet, pocket, etc.  Look out for receipts or generally things you would not expect them to buy normally.
2. Go through his handphone and check for dialled and received calls. Look for recurring numbers. However, it's quite difficult if he put password on the handphone.
3. Check for text messages that have not been deleted yet.  
4. If he says he has to work late, do some spot check either via calls at his office or surprise him at workplace.
5. If he going out with friends, ask who and where.  Maybe you can confirm with his friends or maybe check if he is where he say he is and with whom.
6. If he claims to be going on a business trip out of state or town, get details on his trip i.e hotel, meeting companion and so on. And do some check out.  Calls him at night via the hotel number.
7. Make a note of his car mileage.  Any oddity without any explainable reason, he has no doubt been somewhere else too.
8. If he start to leave for work early than usual on a regular basis, try call his workplace around the time he should have arrived.
9. If you can access his emails or better still can guess his FB password, this is a great way of catching him out. Quite often he may well forget to delete certain email, or complacent enough to leave it there, or may not have emptied his deleted items folder yet.
10. If you get to know to who he is committing infidelity with, try to find out information on her.  Then, check if his partner's vehicle is in the driveway or parked in a nearby.
11. If you have budget, invest in a basic phone-bug, or very small cameras.
12. Check out his car really thoroughly, look for unfamiliar hairs or proof.

Whatever it is, all I can say "GOOD LUCK"!!

Signed off for now

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