It's hard to let go someone that you love with all your heart. It definitely difficult to stop loving him, especially when you have been together for so long and you always believe he is your soulmate.
But even though it is extremely hard, it is possible and the best way to deal with it are:
1. Don't email, IM, call, SMS, or even say hi because it will open wounds that you are trying to close. Don't even answer calls from him either.
2. Tell him that it is over just to be sure so he doesn't still ponder on the idea and make a stupid decision to try to undo everything you have done. If he broke up with you, then leave it. Give him time he needs for himself and maybe you can be platonic friends in the future (but I don't really suggest it). Remember, relationship happen for a reason. If you need to, just try and drift away. It may be best for the both of you. Even if your ex wants to be friends, it is really hard because it will bring up all those old memories of being together. The easier way is to cut all ties if possible.
3. Realise that you were not meant for each other, so the sooner you give up on him, you can find the guy who is.
4. Get rid of all memories of him no matter how hard it seems.
5. Know you can do it. Once started, just keep on going.
6. Don't close the book, just turn the page. You have many potential soulmates and reminiscing about the past only means you are not happy with your own life, not because you are without a partner.
7. Keep away from all the stuff or place that will remind you of him.
8. Stop mentioning his name.
9. Organise as many things as possible in your diary. The more you busy, the less time you will have to dwell on the past. Make a list of all the things you have always wanted to do and do them.
10. If you still feel upset about the past relationship, try talking to someone you close to help along the process of getting over him.
11. Try to meditate to clear your mind of what he looks like.
12. Maybe it is about time for you to try to find a new suitor. However, don't go on the rebound and get with the first person you find. You won't be happy and you will be comparing your new rebound partner to your last because you didn't have enough time to get over them and start afresh.
13. Do things or play sports/games that get your mind off of that person. It might help a lot.
15. Trust me, it is not easy as 123 to get over someone especially if it was real love but, if you can appreciate being alone, you will find a real long-term partner when you are not looking.
16. Don't try to find out information about what he is up to or whether he has a new partner, etc. It will make you look desperate and it will more than likely be reported back to your ex. And it will make it worse he has already move on and got a new girlfriend.
17. Don't be to egotistical. Accept his apologies but remember the pain that it caused. It will keep you in a better position to think over the situation.
Just remember, you don't need anyone else in you life to make you happy and spend some time with yourself will help you to appreciate yourself.
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