Is he the ONE?

Dear Diary,

How do you determine if he is MR RIGHT (not MR think he is always RIGHT). 

One way to discover whether or not the man you are dating is the ONE is by giving him some test.

• Get into real knock-down, drag-out fight with him

You can know about a person by the way he fights.  If in the heat of a real argument he does a pretty good job of sticking to the point, or tends to ratchet the hostility down, or if he actually listens to the things you are trying to convey, that is a beautiful sign.  But if he goes vicious, or start attacking you personally or even worse any way physical, that is a sign too.  A "you better run away" sign.

• Go on long distance trip with him

Generally, people are pretty good at keeping their stuff under the table for certain length of time.  However, on a long road trip, there is nowhere for him to hide.  Sooner or later his smooth and yummy outer layer will finally wear off, and his inner chewy nuttiness will ultimately be revealed.  With a lot of unexpected stuff happens,  there is pretty good chance he will shows his true colour.  Then he will show how he reacts when things go like they always go in life, which is contrary to plans.

• Have him care for you when you are really sick

One of the many reasons men love women so much is because women are just so darn pretty and well-composed.  So, why don't you get ugly around him for a change, and see how that works for you.  I am talking about get biologically ugly.  Then, scrutinize his behaviour when you are practically croaking on your bed.  Is he patient, sympathetic, loving and attentive? Or does he looks like he wants to run to the door?

• Watch him around other women

Men flirt.  Cool enough.  That's probably how you were attracted to him in the first place.  But once both of you have committed to being "the COUPLE", the only message he ever needs to be sending to any other woman is "Yeah, you are damn hot, but not to me".  So, next time if you attend a party, put yourself away from him and observe while he is doing solo mode.  You will see whether he is Mr RIGHT or Mr LIGHT instantly.

• Watch how he treats service staff

People like waiters, maids, parking attendants, delivery boy, store clerks, etc.  A man's true character is revealed by how he treats such people in his life.  If towards service staff or those beneath him professionally  he is so brusque, dismissive, or in even of slightest condescending, then there is high possiblity he will treat you the same way too, sooner or later.  You are never be able to fix it, because it's already embedded in him.  So get out right away.... or go down trying.

• Watch how he loses

Everyone wins well.  When in victory, everyone is so gracious, humble, sweet.  However, when he loses, tells you who he is.  Be with him sometime when he loses a game that he wanted or expected to win.  Even better if you are the one who beats him.  Watch very carefully on how he respond to defeat.  A real winner knows it's about remaining a winner, no matter the score is. 

If he pass the test, you are one damn lucky woman.

By the way, he passed each and every test.  Yeay! Lucky me!

Signed off for now,

LOLA